The Illusion of the Magic Cure

Chasing after accurate diagnoses and effective treatments is a full-time job that takes up a significant amount of time, energy, and brain space. Not only that, but it’s usually a frustrating job in an abusive work environment with an incompetent boss and very low pay. And worst of all? We can’t quit. 

Stepping Back To See A Way Forward

You’re making breakfast, getting your kids to school, going to work, sitting through a long day, picking up your kids from school, buying your groceries, making dinner, doing laundry, and the list of tasks seems to never end. All day you have pain shooting through your body, screaming for your attention at every moment. The […]

The Cycle of Chronic Pain, Fear, and Trauma

Imagine this scene: A man is using a public shower on the beach to wash up after swimming: he puts shampoo in his hair, rubs it in, and then puts his head under the running water to rinse it out. What he doesn’t know, however, is that as he’s trying to rinse out the shampoo, […]

The Pain Identity: Finding Balance In Our Relationship With Pain

Living with chronic pain can feel like being forced to wear glasses that distort the way that we experience life. Looking through the lens of pain for long enough, we may forget that we’re wearing glasses and that we live with our pain, rather than living as our pain. It’s also possible that we dislike […]

Fear: A Spotlight On What Matters To Us Most

“Everyone is afraid of something. We fear things because we value them. We fear losing people because we love them. We fear dying because we value being alive. Don’t wish you didn’t fear anything. All that would mean is that you didn’t feel anything. (Cassandra Clare)” Fear, in the right proportions, is perhaps the greatest […]

When The Medical System Isn’t Enough

Oh, the medical system. How we with chronic pain depend on it, and how we wish we didn’t have to. Sometimes it comes through for us; we get the right diagnosis, the right prescription – the right care. Too often, however, those are the expectations we carry into our appointments, only to leave feeling frustrated, […]

Chronic Pain & Gaslighting: Nobody Knows Us Better Than We Do

There are very few feelings that hurt more than invalidation. When someone intentionally or unintentionally undermines the reality of our lived experience, it can be devastating. An ongoing experience of having our truth slowly eroded by another can lead to a loss of sense of self and a questioning of our own sanity. In 1944, […]

Depression & Chronic Pain: The Allure and The Trap

“The thing that gets me down – that makes we want to give up, is that it’s endless – that this is just my life. My focus, my time, my money – it all goes towards maintaining a baseline of bearable pain, and it feels futile – and like a trap. For me, it’s not […]

Anger: A Call to Attention

The relentless frustration of yet another ineffective pain management option; why is it so hard to find treatments that help? The bubbling, boiling resentment about how unjust our pain is; why us? The fury of feeling  invisible to others; why is it so hard for them to listen and understand what we’re going through?   Living […]